Communication!!

It's all about communication. We do not do enough of it, we do not do it well nor do we get much better at it over the years. It is pretty obvious to me that like most things effective communication techniques can be learned but must be practiced. One must work at communicating, just like one must work at relationships. Actually I guess a big part of the 'work'needed in most relationships is better communication skills.

Sort of weird that what I talk about most when I go to my bereavement counsellor is the trouble I have communicating in my relationship. I guess the loss of Aidan underlined our differences but also focussed my attention on the relationships worst feature the trouble we have communicating. For me it is the lack or rudimentary communication that we have about our emotional needs..(maybe I just mean my emotional needs). My man never mentions Aidan, I do frequently. I light a candle on his death date, I look at photos of Aidan many times a week, he has never looked at them. He did not want to see or hold Aidan at the hospital, of course I held him until I thought I would never let go, handing Aidan back to the nurse was the hardest thing I have ever done. I appear to be of topic but hey never mind...I do not believe any body is reading my blog nor do I think it would make very happy reading...so this is really just for me.